So, there are a LOT of tools and resources to help us get sober and I, for one, really needed (and still need) all I could take in. And it took A LOT OF TIME TO GET. Some worked, some didn’t, and some just didn’t happen at the right time but you never know what will work for you, so TRY ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING.
My sober journey to date has looked like this, and yes it has taken over two years to “get” although I’ve known it has been desperately needed for at least 4 years now.
2015 I started going to AA meetings while still drinking. This is when I knew I had to stop but had no clue how, no clue if I could even. I had a hard time with the higher power thing and didn’t really feel it was the right place for me. AA seemed depressing and so sad, not what I was looking for but I went.
April 10, 2016 – I started this blog…still drinking. Desperately wanting to quit and the support from this became something I truly looked forward to (and still do)!
After this, I was really “looking” for sobriety. I started to listen to Podcasts daily which included The Bubble Hour, Home, and Recovery Elevator. Since then, I have added in 10% Happier and, The Recovery Power Hour, The Rich Roll Podcast and Thriving After Addiction.
June of 2016 I joined the Booze Free Brigade and also joined a text group of 8 women for accountability during the summer…I was still drinking, all but one other woman was not drinking and had at least 90 days of sobriety. This really showed me the happiness in being sober and was an intimate look into other’s lives who were living each day sober. We texted throughout the day, every day…all 8 of us and became very close.
September 2016 I signed up for yoga classes and signed up for Sober Nation’s 30 days of e-mails (I highly recommend this as it comes with TONS of articles and helpful resources and is 100% free)!!!
October 3rd, I did the Tommy Rosen Recovery 2.0 Conference which turned me on to the Recovery 2.0 podcast as well.
I bought a ton of sobriety books to read, Jason Vale’s being the most helpful and Girl Walked Out of a Bar the most enthralling! In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts is a must!
October 13th, I started Holly Whitaker’s Hip Sobriety School, while still drinking.
November 2016, I got kicked out of my text group since I was sill drinking…I think this was the first real “loss” my drinking caused and hit me pretty hard.
December 2016, I bought Dragontree’s Dreaming and Planning workbook and 8 week program (the workbook is helpful but the program that you purchase is not worth it in my opinion)!!!
December 18th….I thought! I started re-reading the Sober Nation e-mails and material and am keeping up this time with each day, staying sober for a whole 13 days in a row! Epic for me.
January 2017. Drinking again. Still struggling, wondering how to end my misery. This year has been a blur. I pulled out all the resources again, kept mulling over each of them at different times, hoping something would click. It didn’t, until October of 2017.
March 2017. Signed up for Annie Grace’s “This Naked Mind Audio Program”
May 2017 – Started Yoga Teacher Training. I couldn’t drink if I was training to be a yoga teacher, right? Ha…that didn’t work either.
July 2017. Hired a Recovery Coach, Erin Geraghty, who was amazing but too expensive to sustain long term. She helped me come to peace with a lot of past resentments and truly propelled me on my way to sobriety!
October 2017. Drunk, still. My last rock bottom, as there had been several. Made the decision that I couldn’t do this alone, I needed extreme help!
October 15th. Day before leaving for rehab, I didn’t drink! I went to dinner with my husband and son and didn’t drink. I finally had hope and was going to find it the very next day!!!
Today, I am still sober. I wake up early each day and have hot water with lemon, check in with a gratitude group, and make sure I have my day planned out. I am going to yoga class and finishing up my Yoga Teacher Training this 2018, which was put on hold for rehab (well worth it). I am also reading a lot at night on self growth and really trying to take care of myself. That is still a challenge, but I’m trying…and that is more than I’ve done in a long while!
This just goes to show there is A LOT out there. Try anything and everything until you find what works for you. Never give up!!! You only fail if you stop trying. Here is to a Happy and Sober 2018 and may you all find what works for you!!!!
Hugs and peace,
Christy
Thank you for sharing that.
I also tried many things in the years leading up to my sobriety date.
Some weren’t necessarily sobriety related, but they were all self searching experiences.
That work provides the stable foundation for recovery.
I did my first yoga teacher training in my first year of sobriety. It was my best decision ever.
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You are so welcome!!! The searching took a LONG time, but I honestly believe in what you said…that it was all building my foundation, as I now feel stable and strong in my resolve to be sober. I think I needed every bit of that research! Yay for you and your Yoga Teacher Training….I so wish I could take one of your classes and continue with the yoga nidra at nights sometimes (love it and recommended a while back by you)!!! I think it is also helping me to grow inside 🙂
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So happy for you:)
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Thank you!!!
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Thank you for sharing your story!
It took me about 3 years, and I added as many supports as I could. It finally clicked.
Belle always said, if what you are doing is not working, try something else!
Hugs and Happy New Year!
xo
Wendy
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I always hated Belle’s saying “try something different”!!! But it was SO true!!! If what you aren’t doing, so something else…finding that something else can be hard which is the primary purpose of my sharing. I want people to know there is SO much out there!!!!
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I totally agree. It takes time to find the right tools for you. And yes, Belle always told me to add more support, try something different. I’m very happy for you. There is a lot out there.
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What is a sobriety coach?
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Hi there. A sobriety coach/recovery coach is an experienced and licensed addiction counselor who you talk with at regular intervals (just like therapy) but then they are also available for you via e-mail and/or texts throughout the week. A bit more involved than a typical therapist and solely focused on recovery from addiction.
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Keep going – you’re brave to share this.
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Thank you!
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That was a great recap showing how you have to try different resources to find what works for you!
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Thank you! It’s been a journey 🙂
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Congratulations on almost 3 months sober! I’ve been doing the sober thing for a year now and have tried lots of things. Belle was my first sober tool and I am forever grateful for that. I do attend AA meetings several times a week and have made some great sober friends and have larned great information. However, the “all or nothing”/“make AA number 1”philosophy doesn’t work for me and I don’t have a sponsor. I also include yoga, blogging, podcasts, reading and spending time with my family. I’ve had sober spurts of 30 days, 60 days, 30 days, 50 days, etc… I spent about 75% of this year sober, the other 25% not-so-sober. (wink) I’m definitely a work in progress. I look forward to reading through your blogs. I can totally relate! 🙂
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Thank you for that! I too have found an AA group I really like, but the whole program isn’t for me…I am taking what works, and leaving the rest and that is okay for me right now! It’s good to hear from you, who is further along in sobriety, and using a variety of tools in addition to AA…and it’s working!!! Congratulations on 75% of a whole year, that is progress for sure!!!
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I’m at the same amount of time as you – this time. I tend to do 30-60 days then drink for a day or 2. The good new is that alcohol tastes really bad these days and makes me feel like crap. Both physically and mentally. I’m finding it’s just not what it used to be. Thank goodness! I look forward to following your journey as well.
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